The Dangerous Charm Of Secret Love
Love grows and ignites with greater power when accompanied by a certain dose of impossibility. The passion is never so hot as when it is crossed with prohibition. And if it’s to be kept a secret, even better. Secret love has a dangerous charm…
But just as the insect that flies around the flame sometimes ends up burning itself, so too can forbidden love end badly. Sometimes she is simply followed by a romantic ‘goodbye’, but most of the time she leaves one of the parties involved with deep wounds that will take a long time to heal.
Secret love
If a relationship has to be kept secret, there’s generally a very powerful reason behind it. Usually this reason is a third party with whom there is a romantic connection. In general, a secret love involves three parties. Sometimes there are four. Sometimes even more.
A previous commitment is not the only reason why love can become a secret. Sometimes the situation is ruled by convenience, as happens with celebrities who have to keep their relationships a secret so as not to lose fans. Sometimes there are other forms of pressure, such as family, work or social pressure, which force the relationship to remain a secret.
In any case, this type of love is a secret because it is somehow forbidden. And it is precisely this element of prohibition that gives the feelings such a special touch. The relationship cannot develop in a ‘normal’ way. It is necessary to start a kind of ‘parallel life’ in order to maintain that love.
The charm of the forbidden
Every prohibition is, at the same time, an invitation. This is because in the human mind prohibition activates desire. Aren’t you more curious about a film when you hear that it is banned in several countries? Doesn’t that door with the words ‘DO NOT ENTER’ arouse your interest? Don’t you wish you were one of the people who could pass through?
The forbidden exerts a natural charm because it allows us to look closely at something we lack. It is precisely this lack that fuels our desire. Prohibition and desire are therefore two sides of the same coin.
When prohibition is paired with love, things get even more exciting. The forbidden turns into fuel for the flame, even if it is only very small at first. Obstacles turn into incentives and ultimately tempting challenges. It is precisely the risk of the relationship that makes you fall in love. But be careful, because if you play with fire, you can burn yourself badly after all.
The danger of secret love
The first danger of a secret love, of course, is that it can be discovered. We can assume that if the love is secret, it is because the consequences of making it public can be very serious in the end. There is nothing secret that will never be revealed and there are few instances where the truth can remain secret for long.
Of course, many lovers also experience these revelations as exciting to some extent. They cheat on their partner, but subconsciously they want to ‘be caught in the act’. This is all part of a confusing game of seeing how far the official partner can go or undermine it and balance it on the verge of values that are honored to some degree in any relationship.
The second major risk is that one’s own feelings and those of others are literally played with. The real and only reason for the relationship may just lie in the charm of the risk. It is not love that brings you together, but the intention to challenge the forbidden. The bad thing about this “game” is that all parties involved almost always come out hurt.
Finally, the risk of a secret love is that when the time comes, it won’t let us grow and will only make our lives worse. In the end, it becomes a chapter where we behave like children who do not want to obey. When everything has finally become public, all that remains is the aftertaste of the charmingly forbidden… and all the time we have wasted on this fleeting pleasure.
