Looking For Someone Who Doesn’t Want To Be Found: Indifference
I have noticed that there is someone who has been waiting for me for a long time. I am that someone. It’s time to give myself the opportunity to laugh and stop chasing someone who doesn’t want to be reached and just shows indifference.
They say that the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. They say that this kills the affection, that you should not be lazy with what you love, that indifference is the worst punishment and that it is a real blunder to neglect what you love.
It is not good to chase after someone who already knows where you are. It exhausts you, consumes you, destroys you, harms you, it hurts… But we cannot allow lack of interest to hurt us. We are worth much more than we think.
They say there is no shortage of time; there is a lack of interest, because if people really want something, they will find the time.
The person you want will find you
Do not sacrifice yourself for those who do not do this for you, for you will simply receive indifference in return. Someone who really loves you will not demand anything from you that will cause pain or discomfort in your life.
Stop pushing and banging on doors that won’t open for you. Affection cannot withstand indifference. They will always remain at odds with no possibility of reconciliation.
Love is not something to be begged for. That is why we must train our dignity, come back up and stop expecting miracles.
Love is never wasted
This means that even if we have bad experiences, even if we feel that we have been taken advantage of, they have not been able to love us too or that selfishness prevails in those around us , we must not give up.
This means that anytime, anywhere we can find reciprocity and cultivate healthy relationships. Giving love always makes sense, it’s not something we share and then lose.
What happens is that giving a lot and receiving little is exhausting. So the key is not to put all our hopes and expectations in one emotion because it cannot be achieved and therefore our lives have been turned upside down.
What has to come will come at some point. Not as payment for our actions, but as a natural situation in life.
The lack of reciprocity and gratitude
There are relationships and friendships that are doomed to fail because of the total lack of gratitude and reciprocity. This is simple: to maintain a lively feeling, you have to work on it, give it attention and give it time.
However, we must be careful not to overwhelm ourselves with demands. Do we really need our partner to be in every second of our time and in every thought? If so, then we will have to assess our emotional state, work on our needs, and get rid of certain desires and emotional ideas that compromise our feelings.
Ignore people who don’t appreciate you
To be happy, we must learn to ignore those who punish us with indifference and make us doubt our personal and social worth. So we need to think about how to create emotional distance, how to search for oxygen and learn to count to three when we see them.
Each of us has different ways of escaping to breathe in some psychological air and welcome our emotions and with them our sensitivity, self-esteem and self-esteem.
For this we need to reflect, remove the indifference from the person who shows little interest in our feelings and makes us feel belittled. By doing this, we are better able to surround ourselves with people who make us feel like the world is a good place.
That is the only way we can free ourselves from everything that holds us captive and give the green light to life and let life surprise us without fear that it will hurt us. So don’t expect anything from anyone, expect everything from yourself and the rest will come when you least expect it.
