I Have So Much To Say That If I Keep Quiet Speech Bubbles Come Out

Sometimes we hold back our thoughts and feelings for so long that we can express them without needing words. This happens more easily because  verbal communication is only a small part of our emotional communication. We can express ourselves better through facial expressions, gestures, postures and postures than by putting our thoughts and feelings into words. Communication is very broad and flexible, which is why we can say that,  despite being silent, there are hundreds of indicators that do the work of speech bubbles and show a message.

In principle, this is not bad, because it is not always appropriate or necessary to express our thoughts or feelings in words and show them to others. In this way, emotional communication offers more possibilities, and in a wide range.

What we need to know to refine our communication skills

As we have already mentioned, emotional communication offers a wide range of possibilities and it requires different anchors such as our facial expression, gestures, movements, touches, choice of words, intonation, metaphors we use and so on.

The most intricate attempts to connect are those veiled by anger and sadness.  There are many reasons why we don’t want to express our feelings when they are mixed with negative experiences or emotions.

Sometimes we think the best way to fix something and put a positive spin on the situation is to leave out what’s bothering us. We avoid thinking about things that make us sad, angry, or scared.

Other times we think our feelings are too scary or worrying to express. We may even think it’s not fair to burden others with our emotional issues and feelings that don’t matter.

In addition  , we may not be able to find the right words to express what is happening to us  or we may think we lose our intimacy and privacy when we communicate our feelings to others.

As we’ve said,  just because we try to hide our feelings doesn’t mean they aren’t seen. Sooner or later they will surface.

It’s not hard for us to imagine that behind the sarcasm, hostility becomes palpable, or how a person who looks away and smiles can be in love with someone but won’t admit it.

When it comes to sharing an emotional message, we mainly focus on our posture, our facial expression, the tone in which we speak…. but we don’t focus on what is being said; we focus on how it is said.

Both communication and reading emotional language require us to:

• Pay attention to the face and facial expressions.
• Interpret movements and gestures.
• To attach importance to the language of touch.
• Watching what the voice reveals.
• Turning feelings into words.
• Knowing how to listen to ourselves and others.

In short, good emotional communication requires a little more than saying the right words, so we must send and receive non-verbal messages with care. It’s rare to just communicate facial expressions or gestures; we do it with our whole being.

This is why it is important for us to synchronize everything to be able to express what we feel in our hearts and improve our general mood. The tears we don’t cry and the words we don’t speak can overwhelm us and cause misunderstandings and unnecessary emotional isolation.

When we turn into agile communicators, we improve our relationships, as well as our way of looking at life and conflict. This makes us feel better and we know how to listen to ourselves, which takes effort, but is worth it.