I Don’t Know How Yet, But I Will Overcome This

I don’t know how I’m going to get out of this black hole I’m in. Sometimes life blurs all the intersections and makes me feel like it’s the end of the world. But I know this feeling comes from my vision being clouded by all the negative thoughts that come my way. I am sure I will overcome this.

Because I felt that way before, and then I managed to climb out of this pit too.

Now that I have some perspective, I see that I often overreacted. After all, the situations presented no real danger.

The biggest drama right now was the drama I created in my own head. Yet there are still many beliefs and perspectives that I need to review. Somehow I have to find peace.

An end is also a new beginning

We are afraid of ending things. It’s a shame when our favorite show or book ends. When a relationship ends, we fear it will destroy our idea of ​​love for the rest of our lives. We try to avoid these feelings at all costs.

However, this kind of behavior prevents us from making decisions that would actually benefit us. For example, ending a relationship that survives on pure nostalgia is not negative. On the contrary, the relationship could even be harmful.

Yet we believe the exact opposite and hold fast to our beliefs. We feel protected by a false sense of loyalty to the other. And all the while we betray ourselves.

It is not always possible to break up with someone or leave something behind. Sometimes circumstances force us to complete a cycle with no possibility of going back. And this can be difficult to deal with. We’re not prepared for it, and it’s not really what we want.

We tend to equate goodness with things that are long lasting and safe. The opposite is negative. Society teaches us that throughout our lives. That is why we attach ourselves to objects, situations and people. That’s why it’s so hard for us to let go and make decisions that end things.

When life gets hard, we can overcome it

Let’s move away from the belief that the end of something is always a failure. All we have to deal with is frustration. In the end we feel sad and paralyzed, unable to move forward.

It is harmful to our self-esteem. It makes us think that there is some kind of black magic that is strong enough to ruin anything we want to do that is worth doing.

But listen: we are more resilient than we think. We forget our ability to keep going after we hit bottom. We’ve all had moments in the past when we thought it was over for us. But when we least expected it, new opportunities arose. We can overcome the disappointment.

It’s painful to end something that made us happy and gave us so many good memories. We get used to our comfortable routine. When everything is the same every day, we feel comfortable. We are sure everything is fine.

We are so used to our comfort zone. It is warm, quiet and safe. But it’s very easy to get stuck there. Things can stagnate. Also, as much as we want to be safe, there are always problems lurking to test us.

I’ve made it this far. I am sure that I will now be able to see unpleasant situations as an opportunity instead of bad luck. I may be able to avoid some decisions, but sooner or later I’ll hit a dead end. My resolve will be tested, but I will prevail.