Fighting Change Is Worse Than Changing Itself

Why are we so afraid of change when life is so full of it? Why fight against change when it’s really the only thing that’s constant? It’s something we can be sure of. We are not the same person as we were yesterday and, no matter how hard we try, we will not be the same person tomorrow as we are today.

This is all due to the accumulation of conditions we are exposed to on a daily basis, even if we don’t realize it. It is therefore time that we learn to stop fighting change.

Resisting new things is not the way you should live your life. However, why do we tend to think that things used to be better?

For most of us it is a habit to idealize the past. However, this means ignoring the negative aspects and focusing only on the positive aspects.

For example, we often only remember the good aspects of our childhood. In addition, we often tend to compare current difficult and desperate situations with situations that were much easier in our eyes.

Change and the brain

However, our memory is absolutely not reliable. It changes constantly. Memories even have a sensitive period where they can be adjusted to new events.

This is why we always make things more beautiful than they are and then store them in our memory. So we can use them as a model of comparison every time something happens to us.

In view of what we’ve just discussed, it wouldn’t be so crazy to think that our brains are made to scare us from both good and bad changes. It shows that our brains like to feel safe.

However, any change means that we have to leave our comfort zone, which leads to fear. So in this case it makes sense that our brains fight against change, doesn’t it?

At the same time, the amount of adrenaline released when we are confronted with change can confuse our brains causing us to associate change with feelings of mistrust or anger.

However, we must not forget that this chemical activation serves to prepare us for and help us cope with new situations.

There is therefore something melancholic about all changes, even the changes that you fear most.

Change if you have the opportunity

Writer, poet and philosopher Henry David Thoreau once made a very specific statement: “Things don’t change, we change.”  The flow of life affects us and somehow transforms us.

The sooner we accept this, the better our life will be. It helps us to better deal with the changes we encounter.

That way we don’t get stuck in the past or in the illusion of the future. Instead, we finally learn to focus on the present.

We are not the same person as we were last year. Also the people we love are not the same. In fact, we all change all the time. It’s amazing to realize that no matter how much others change, we still value them no matter what. We should do the same with ourselves.

Fighting change is a weakness

A person’s mental health depends on their ability to evolve and adapt to their circumstances. By clinging steadfastly to models and primitive schemes, we will only accumulate fear. Therefore, do not try to fight against change, but rather learn from it.

When we resist change, we show how much we like to stay in our comfort zone, where we don’t have to face our fears. Change means that we have to accept uncertainty and that this will create fear in us.

At the same time, the fear of change can mean not taking responsibility for your problems. Instead, you tend to blame others for the mistakes you make yourself. This is definitely a lot easier than dealing with your problems. However, it also means that you are not moving forward.