In Adversity We See Who Our True Friends Are
Certain friends in our lives help us to stay upright when we are in danger of falling during the difficult moments. Friends who spend their time with us and give us affection to make us feel better. A shoulder to cry on that doesn’t ask for much in return. In return, we give them affection when we experience that emotional relief we so desperately need during adversity. These are our true friends.
That’s why we, as humans, tend to say that during your worst moments you will notice who deserves to be with you during your best times. These people are our anchors that tie us to reality. They are a source of support, a lock on your life that holds all the good things.
That’s why our time is a precious gift. A gift based on reciprocity. A good so valued that we should always be careful who we give it to. Not every goal is worth it.
Emotional communication, your basis during setbacks
We tend to think that the people around us should read between the lines. When someone asks us if something is wrong, we tend to say everything is fine, or say just a few words in response. We make the mistake of getting a little annoyed when we try to put our bad emotional experiences into words.
This is caused by a form of magical thinking based on expectations. We believe that others should know how to distinguish and behave at all times. This is a mistake. And as a result, we become dishonest.
So be careful! Don’t make the mistake of thinking that others can guess our conflicts or our stress. If we don’t communicate our story clearly, many of those around us may not be able to understand the gravity of our situation.
It’s dangerous to make a guessing game out of it. As you’ve probably experienced, it’s common for us to make a huge mistake when we’re guided by expectations.
In relationships, the phrases “I would do it for you” or “you should have been able to feel it” don’t apply. New. It is important that we express our mood and ask for help directly. No matter what you may think, this will not leave you vulnerable.
We choose who we allow into our lives. Therefore, when someone hurts us, we also need to analyze our own behavior, in the most objective way possible. We must avoid thinking things like if I were her I would have done this or that. Instead, we should try to put other words to our conflict and disappointment.
Try playing devil’s advocate a little, and try to step out of the person you are, into someone else’s shoes. Step into their thought patterns, their emotions, their reality. This will save you more disappointments.
When communication flows: emotional support
It’s great when you can count on the people around you, who are there for you in your life, just when you need them. That is beyond dispute. Hugs and shared silences complete us during moments when an emotional void hinders us.
What stands out about permanence is sincere appreciation, kindness, the metamorphosis of the relationship, the drive, the unbearable unbearable sadness, our disconnection, our impatience, our despair, our self-deception.
It’s not that the presence of those we love most requires grand gestures or courtesy. Instead, we’re talking companionship, words of encouragement, pep talks when you need it. The people who are with us when we’re not nice or nice, when we argue about our frustrations and injustice, when our pain makes us unable to consider others… These people deserve us during the good times.
Those who stay with us when we get lost in the dark deserve to accompany us through our moments of enlightenment. They deserve appreciation, warmth, affection and pleasure. They deserve a party worthy of them. They deserve to be rewarded with reciprocity.
