Loneliness Can Make You Happy

If we mapped out feelings and situations, we would realize that  for many people, loneliness and sadness are closely related. This closeness is not only related to loneliness we experience ourselves, but also feeling sorry for someone who seems to be isolated is common.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Loneliness can only be understood as a burden when it is imposed, when someone wants social support but does not get it. This loneliness has a lot to do with the natural need to describe, speak and tell part of our story.

This is why it is so harmful to the elderly. They feel that they have gathered wisdom to share and that is why they are so grateful to us when we simply spend time with them. The sadness that comes with loneliness also has a lot to do with the time and the feeling that we are, perhaps, not worthy enough for someone to spend time with us.

At the opposite end of the spectrum is voluntary solitude; the need to escape the social noise. Separating the act from ourselves for clarity, as if everything we saw up close was blurry. This type of loneliness is what makes us independent and provides us with resources to enjoy and feel fulfilled, completely dependent on ourselves.

You can do whatever you want, whenever you want

If you’re someone who likes solitude and living alone, you’ve probably grown accustomed to being the one you worry about most. You may even be weighing the pros and cons of a life in solitude versus a life you share with someone.

You probably think about things like being able to determine your own plans, not having to give explanations and being able to make spontaneous decisions. On the other hand, there is the security that would be given to you through unconditional support, the well-being we experience by sharing or being able to delegate some household chores.

There are people for whom this daily loneliness is a temporary situation, but for others it is a permanent choice. Whichever group you belong to, it’s important that it is your choice  and not a choice you had to make because you didn’t have the opportunity to live differently.

You will be able to love yourself first before you love someone else

They say that solitude helps you grow as a person and that it helps you to know yourself. However, keep in mind that this won’t be the case if you become overwhelmed with frustration at not being able to get rid of the loneliness or feelings and begin to look obsessively for a way out.

If you learn to live with yourself, take care of yourself, accept your strengths and weaknesses and ultimately love yourself, you are on the right track to find genuine happiness. This is because you are not dependent on whether or not you are in a romantic relationship to achieve it. The perfect relationship should be the one you have with yourself. Remember that from this relationship will arise your relationships with others.

Develop good friendships

Who says loneliness is synonymous with being isolated or having no friends? Nothing is less true! Loneliness is your ability to live your way, and that doesn’t get in the way of having good friends who understand you, love you, respect your way of life and make you happy.

Also, when you choose to be alone, you have the opportunity to meet new people, because you have started all kinds of new activities completely without company. People who share your interests will undoubtedly enrich your life.

Independence is something that many people strive for. It is in our nature to break the ties we no longer need. Read more.